Mind
Mindfulness has been defined as: "paying
attention, on purpose, in the present moment,
non-judgmentally."
Jon Kabat-Zinn
(founder of mindfulness-based
stress reduction clinic)
I have had the honor of being a
participant of Jon Kabat-Zinn's
mindfulness-based stress reductioncourse. The Life coaching which I do embodies
this. Being mindful is the opposite of being
mindless. Many of our actions are automatic and we are not
conscious of our thinking. Introducing mindfulness practices into ones
life helps us to live in the present moment and to be less
judgmental and critical of ourselves and
others.
Jon Kabat-Zinn has written a
number of books. The one
most love is called "Wherever You Go, There You Are"
Wherever You Go, There You Are-
A client
of mine once said to me that he does not feel challenged
intellectually, he is bored. "I’ve been in my job for ten years
and would like to explore a possibility of change, perhaps a
new career or at least a new place of work. I don’t know what
yet."
Another
client, a business consultant came to me for wellbeing
coaching. He felt he was stressed out most of the time and he
thought it was because he worked too hard. When I was coaching
him we looked at his different tasks and I started to explore
with him his thoughts through the different tasks.
I took a
task that he did daily, his daily review of his work and asked
him to write down everything that came to mind. What we saw
from his externalization of his thoughts that he kept saying -
"this I have not completed" and "I haven't yet even started
this …". In other words when we focused on a particular part of
his job we saw how he thought. His thinking was causing his
stress not the work itself which he loved.
We
started to work on changing his thinking, first by creating
awareness of what he was thinking. He chose to say for that
which was not completed, "I did the best I can here." This was
so true. I asked him. Could you have done more? And his reply
was No. Instead of scolding and criticizing himself he began to
coach himself and encourage himself. In the second phase of the
coaching he was able to introduce gratitude for what he had
achieved on a daily basis and to congratulate himself for
this.
We used
everyday work situations from his life to practice awareness of
his thinking, all the time writing it down and externalizing
his thoughts, questioning whether they were true and with time
he could turn the sentences in his mind around. He reported to
me that in addition to him feeling calmer as regards his work,
he also was becoming more productive, had more energy and was
much more relaxed at home with the kids.
During
the life coaching we worked on awareness of his thinking using
physical exercises to notice this.
Exercise - Where is your
mind? An Informal Mindfulness
Practice.
Select something that you do everyday like brushing your teeth
or having a shower. I ask you to practice being present for
this exercise and will explain what I mean. Let's take you
taking a shower for instance.
Feel the water as it comes down on you, notice your body, your
hands how they move in the shower, where your face is. How do
you feel? Notice if you have thoughts at the moment? Where is
your mind? This means to notice if your mind wanders into the
future about planning or is dwelling on something from the
past, just notice and gently bring yourself back to the present
by feeling the water on you and different aspects of it, by
noticing your hands and how you lather yourself with the soap
and enjoy.
Soul
Body
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